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Sunday, February 28, 2010

I'm One of Those

You know, even though I know it will irritate some people I am going to say it anyway. I am one of those people who is used to being "the nice girl". I hate confrontation, avoid it at all costs. I don't like to argue, disagree, fight, blah blah blah. I enjoy my blog as a forum to post my complaints but truly I rarely do it to someone's face because truly I loathe arguing. What's the point? You won't convince me. I won't convince you and most likely you're just pissing me off and then I am in a bad mood for the rest of the day.

I have to fight this type of behavior. I want to be liked. I like to make people smile. I like to make others happy. I want to make those in a bad mood smile. This doesn't always work out for me. Example one: I recently saw a Twitter post in which someone said they were going to kill themselves. Regardless of my thought that it was a ploy for attention and also wondering why I was following a person who described themselves as emo, that good side of me had to say something. I simply said I hoped they were kidding. I figured if they needed someone to vent to, I would try and help. They replied they weren't kidding and blocked me. Nice. So much for trying to help them out.

Today I saw someone cussing up a storm on Twitter about something. I figured 40 f words in a row was humorous, regardless of how angry you are. If you type that out, you are hoping for a response am I right? You want people to say something. You are trying to get attention. So, I just replied with an LOL what's wrong? I got a reply along the lines of "Glad I could fucking amuse you." Or something like that. I have zero clue how to respond to messages like that. Are you on twitter to fight with strangers? Do you think everyone who replies is trying to start a fight with you? Before you jump to conclusions you might want to realize that perhaps it is just breaking the ice for you to vent. I am a good listener. It's what I do. Vent away and I'll offer helpful advice. Attack me and I guarantee the last thing you'll see is my ass as I turn away.

I don't fight. I don't argue. I dwell on it and it's no good for me so I just leave the situation. It's easiest for me. However when someone truly doesn't like me I guess it's confusing. I'm agreeable....friendly....maybe that's what it is. Maybe I piss the mad people off. Which of course, is incredibly funny to me!!! It reminds me of an episode of The Golden Girls. Yes I like that show. And no I won't argue with you about it! On this particular episode a man who works with Rose just does not like her. She's too happy and bouncy for him. She just does NOT get it and wants to do anything to make him like her. The rest of the episode is about that. She is trying to get him to like her, which only further ticks him off. Funny stuff. I don't want to be that girl so I just learn to leave the angry people alone. If you don't like me, your loss.

Now, back to the books!!


Anonymous said...

some people just suck girl, don't let em getcha down. I try to be agreeable too, in an upfront confrontational kinda way!

Melissa said...

No fair, I want to know where you read all these juicy tweets. All I ever see is people posting referral links, or stuff they are selling. Seriously though, some people just have to have attention I guess. I guess my one sister would qualify as emoish, minus some of the drama, I just ignore most of it.

The Constant Complainer said...

In the past I would have said that I'm all about stirring the pot. But these days, I'm trying to reduce my stressload. LOL. But yeah, like Melissa said, sometimes it's just the attention seekers. But admittedly, a 40-character-f-bomb on Twitter might be kind of funny. Hehe!

LIndsay said...

Some people suck, some people don;t want to like you, or some people just personally can't stand the always cheery always happy "why doesn't everyone love me" type of individual.

Not saying this to be mean, but some people find that type of always positive uber helpful attitude annoying and sometimes condescending.

These people were probably just dick heads..

Personally, i used to HATE cheery people like you, but now I have come to appreciate it. Just because I can't be super happy go-lucky and positive doesn't mean i have to despise people who are. I realized it was more of me being jealous of their happiness.

So go on being yourself, but just don't take it personally if people dont like you. Not everyone will, so move on.

Hope i wasn't offensive.. trying to just give you a different spin.


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